Holy moly, tuck in. Did you know this was in the bible? Well of course it is! God made marriage and sex. He created it to be a beautiful thing between married people. Of course, He would have Solomon record the point and purpose of sex because He knew in our broken and sinful state, we would take this beautiful thing and make it cheap and disgusting. The distortion that goes on surrounding our bodies and sex distracts us from what it was meant to be. But this beautiful love song teaches us that a man and a woman can delight in sex, inside the confines of marriage. It teaches us to take care of ourselves so that our lover can admire and “drink” in our bodies. It teaches us to take time and study our lover and revel in what has been shared with us. It also teaches us that we should not awaken this beautiful passion until the right time. i.e. marriage.
When you experience sex outside of marriage you are actually stealing a part of the person you are having sex with. That part is meant only to be shared with your marriage partner. When we have sex before marriage, we bring so much baggage into the marriage. If I could say anything to young women about sex it’s this, “It’s not worth what you are giving up. Only a man who will commit himself to you in marriage is worthy of that gift. There is not a day that goes by that I do not wish I was free of the sexual baggage I have.”
The good news is, if you are like me and gave that piece of you away too soon, God is in the business of making all things new. The goal is to have the kind of healthy sexual relationship these two lovers have. It takes work. It is not all rose pedals and champagne. But God made us for this. Our flesh only has one response to sex: MORE! But Godly sex (yes that’s right I said Godly sex) enlists the Spirit to balance out desire and the beauty that is intended for this union. Believers, we are empowered to be restored to the beauty that this song portrays.
Just so we are all on the same page. The structure of this song is as follows:
- Courtship (1:1-3:5)
- Wedding and wedding night (3:6-5:1)
- First fight, reconciliation and desire for a mature marriage (5:2-8:4)
- Conclusion (8:5-7)
- How they fell in love (8:8-14)
I hate to split this beautiful song up like that but between all the sexy talk and “your breasts are like fawns,” I am afraid we will forget where we are in the story.
There is lots of discussion about this song actually being allegory for God and how He loves Israel, and Christ and how He loves the church. I get the similarities but because this song does not tell us that it is an allegory, I think we should take it at face value for being God’s record of what married life should be like.
Song of Songs 1:1—4:16
2 Corinthians 8: 16-24
Psalm 50: 1-23
Proverbs 22: 22-23